Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. – Hebrews 13:4
When I consider the joy that my wife and I bring to one another, I can only wonder at the feelings that Adam and Eve brought to each other in Paradise before the original sin. When Adam yearned for a companion, God made his perfect compliment in Eve, and they lived in harmony and peace in fellowship with the Creator looking forward to eternal bliss. Only when temptation, sin and shame entered in were they set in opposition to each other.
Ever since that time, marriage and relationships in general have been difficult, and the purpose of God to bring joy and peace to His creation has been frustrated by mankind’s sin. In fact only in the Salvation of Jesus Christ is Paradise regained, and as Jesus said, “In the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven” (Matthew 22:30). The marrital bond was created by God in the beginning, and only in proper submission to His plan will it be restored to its proper joy.
Sadly many people are still falling for the same lies of enlightened thought of good and evil for themselves apart from God only to find that some else with different ideas thinks that they are enlightened. One major problem is that our vision is flawed without God’s divine intervention. Unless we trust in God, His Salvation and His Word, we will continue to fall for the seducing lies of the Serpent who said, “You will not surely die.” Only they did die (Genesis 3).
Even today, couples and individuals are still assaulted with false notions contending to be the “truth” about their feelings, and some of these lies are pretty convincing. After all what God fearing person does not want to be loving and kind and merciful? And yet we are repeatedly told that simply speaking the truth even in a loving manner is bigotry, hate, and small minded. Isn’t guiding someone to the real truth of God’s Word what Christians are charged to do? Wouldn’t you rather know the truth about what is killing you and harming others? Alas, this is not always the case.
The worldly often gets mixed in with spiritual things, and perhaps no where does this happen more than in human relationships. Feelings and reality are often perceived as indistinct, when in fact they are truly separate but related things. We distort what’s good to make it bad, and we gloss sinful things to make them palatable or even desirable bringing dire consequences (Isaiah 5:20). So marriage suffers like many godly institutions today, because the proper institution has been eroded, and its intent has been confused.
By the time Hebrews 13:4 was written, it is clear that godly marriage was a precious commodity. In fact, the word here translated honourable in the Authorized Version is translated in most other places as precious. One thing that makes something precious is its rarity. Like a precious gem, it is truly wonderful to behold a happy marriage. Like the virtuous woman of Proverbs 31, such a marriage is far above rubies, because it takes a virtuous man and woman to make such a union. It is a treasure and a symbol of the surpassing love of Jesus Christ for the Church (Ephesians 5:25-28).
In a world racked by lust, broken vows, unnatural affections, and unlawful divorce and abandonment, I am praying for you and the Church in general to obey God rather than men (Acts 5:29). See God’s best plan for your life, and do not lean on your own understanding (Procerbs 3:6). His Word will be a light unto your path (Psalm 119:105).